The following comment was posted to my blog on Friday afternoon. I chose to have blog owner approval on this blog because I had had the unfortunate experience of meeting some troubled people through blogging. As well, I never felt "comfortable" around some of these individuals and as this is my blog and my life, the people whom I choose to socialize with or include in my circle are those who I feel comfortable with and who are positives in my life. I learned through cancer that life is too short to do otherwise. And as I was telling my youngest son last week as he was making some difficult decisions that you always have to be true to yourself, even if it means that sometimes you are going to hurt someone else's feelings. It's an important lesson. Not always easy but it must be done. I deleted the comment from the comment section of the applicable post, but I did not want to delete the comment. I wanted this woman to know that her comment was read. It didn't affect me the way I expect she hoped it would and even though she didn't use her name I want her to have her say. Here then is the comment left for me.
Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Discovering Ordinary Courage...":
How about the courage to accept kindness and not turn it into something else, kindness is kindness,no strings attached. How about compassion and treating people with respect. Discarding people like trash because YOU decide a great act of kindness has a sinister motive. Your quotes are beautiful, now live them.That takes courage. I never thought you were cruel, but so I was shocked.
I deleted the comment because it was petty and meaningless. It was done out of spite and in support of someone else and I do know who left it, even though the writer chose to hide behind her skirts and post anonymously. Other information is left even when you make an anonymous post like IP addresses, location, etc. It wasn't difficult to figure out. My immediate reaction to this was, if we are talking about courage then why doesn't this woman have the courage to stand by her convictions and speak what she so strongly feels by using her name? No matter what way you look at this, that is cowardice. It also speaks to me that this person really doesn't know the whole story. She has heard one version, probably read something I had written (in good faith and in good conscience) and yet, has decided because of her own clouded judgement that I am who she believes me to be.
Please note that I have never met this woman nor her friend and I find it incredibly difficult to believe that either one of them would know me anymore than I know them. As for my rejection of kindness, again, this woman has no clear idea of what is in my head, what was happening in my life or what any of her accusations entail. She has been told one thing and one thing only. She is speaking out of the other side of her mouth without having facts. That can be embarrassing. I don't visit or comment on these people's blogs and I can't for the life of me figure out why they would want to come to mine.
To the person who wrote this, I'm sorry that you carry such bitterness in your heart. To anyone else who is reading this, remember the importance of this: no matter what your opinion or your feelings, the words are meaningless if you haven't the courage to stand behind them with your name. No one ever takes anything written anonymously very seriously.
I am closing comments for this post. I didn't share this for empathy or positive feedback...or for negative feedback. I shared it so that the writer would know what I think of her behaviour, and sadly about her, and so that others will think twice before committing such a shameful act towards someone else.
