In response to my post about mean spiritedness and mean spirited people, Kim Mailhot, otherwise known as the Queen of Arts, was reminded of the above artwork that she had created and wanted to share with me. With Kim's permission I am sharing it here as well.Kim is a talented artist who has the ability to transfer emotions and feelings into her work which is expressive and often poignant. The piece here refers to "Gross Gordon" someone with whom we have all come in contact with at some point in our lives. It may have been the child we knew who physically did this type of thing to insects and derived pleasure from it. It may be someone we know who emotionally and/or verbally "plucks wings" which makes him (or her) feel better about themselves.
As Kim described to me, when the "Gross Gordon" who is part of her life begins his "plucking" on those she holds near and dear, she gives those people extra love, extra kindness and reinforces the goodness in them. A powerful antidote to the poison that can be used as a weapon by those who don't know love, kindness, self-worth and self-acceptance.
*original artwork by Kim Mailhot is not to be copied without permission.
6 comments:
"Gross Gordon" is an excellent visual reminder that most mean-spirited people suffer from (and act upon) their own tremendous insecurities.
It's odd how, as adults, we switch tactics, but achieve the same results... whenever someone plucks my wings I try to generate some good - the only way to feel better. Thanks for sharing this!
How do you cope with mean spirited people Sherry?
I have better coping abilities now after reading a few self help books.But it is weird how these things I stuffed way back when come bubbling to the surface.
That's a good question Charlie. I knew mean spirited people when I was a child (we all did I'm sure of that). I knew mean spirited people during my teens and young adult life and I still know who they are at this stage in my life.
When I was younger, like many people, I assumed that the problem was "mine"...that other people's behaviour was because of something I did or said, or who I was.
And then I learned that it isn't about "me"...it is about the other person. It is there "lack" of self, lack of respect and deep seated need to be sure that their "target" feels less than they do. It's part anger and part jealousy and as Deryn Mentock talked about on her blog, part obession and addiction. The people who can be the meanest to you can be the very people who very much want to be like you or have what you have.
I try and turn the other cheek. I try and remember that it isn't about me, that there is more to be pitied in those people and I distance myself from those individuals. If I have to have dealings with someone like that I make sure that they aren't successful in their "chopping" or "plucking" by reminding myself that they need more than they realize.
It isn't easy by any stretch, but it works.
Hello my friend. A very poignant post indeed. Kim is such a dear.
The gross gordons of the world have just chosen to hold onto pain and bitterness -- I don't even think they realize they have a choice.
What a gorgeous piece!
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Thanks for featuring Gross Gordon here, Sherry. He serves as a reminder to me to keep my own wings strong and protected. Too bad he doesn't know he has a choice, but thankfully, I do know it !
You do such a great job spreading the love, Sherry. Thanks again !
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